When the average person turns 50 they expect that they will be able to kick back a bit and enjoy the fruit of their labor, more so with someone they plan to grow old and grey with. There are many 50 years plus singles out in the world today, and are looking to meet that special someone to share the rest of their life with.
What happens to many in this age bracket is that they feel like the odd balls as they are single and find it difficult to meet someone.
This is furthest from the truth as there are so many older singles that are all looking to meet that special someone. It is never to late to date. So stay positive and focused. Here are some pointers for 50+ singles to remember.
Know that you are a great catch
Many people that are single can be hard on themselves, especially as they get older, if you feel that your confidence is at an all time low then it is time to reassess and reevaluate YOU.
What you need to do is think of three or more things that you have a right to feel good about, this could be your cooking skills, your great sense of humor, or that you can still run a mile without getting chronically fatigued.
Then next thing you should do is nominate something that you would like to improve, this could be something like loosing weight, or updating your wardrobe, or start dancing lessons. Whatever you do will be better for you. So do something positive for you.
Make it known that you are available
Ok you have been single long enough, but you do have to make others aware that you would like to meet someone, you can do this simply by telling your friends, family and colleagues that you know are looking for setups and tell them. Do not be shy about this as many of us do enjoy playing matchmaker.
Go to social events to mix and mingle
There are many places that you can go to so you can meet with people, such as workshops, volunteer groups, rotary club, bushwalkers group the list is endless of where you could meet some one, you could also consider internet dating as a place to meet and date people.
The world is your oyster as there is a perfect match out there for you, waiting to be found and discovered!
Do speak up
Be open to meeting new people, you never know who you will meet through out your day. The person that stands next to you at the shop, or post office, or when you go to buy your lunch.
Being able to say something on the spur of a moment that is witty or something that will catch the attention of the person you are directing it to, could turn out to be your soul mate. So speak up and get noticed.
Wearing age appropriate clothes that captivate
So many people that are back on the single circuit do not have any clues on what to wear when they are out and about. A lot of singles in their fifties feel like they are stuck between dressing way to young or too old for their age. So what you will find that is appropriate is something that you find comfortable to wear, rather than something that you will feel self conscious and awkward in.
So do go shopping with a friend that will give you an honest opinion on what will suit and what will not. After all you do not want to look like mutton dressed as lamb. What looked good on you some twenty years ago will not necessarily look good on you today.
When on a date keep conversation on the positive side
By this stage of our lives, you will find that all of us carry romantic baggage in their closet, and it can be very tempting to swap stories while on a date. Do resist this urge. It is far better to get to know the person you are with, after all you have chosen to date this person and they could turn out to be your future soul mate.
So keep conversations light, inject plenty of humor and view it that you are there to have a good time, and a good chat.
Become a listener
A lot of older singles are a bit rusty on the dating scene and could try too hard to make a first great impression. They will talk about anything and everything, and will leave no room for the other person to say anything.
It is far better to sit back and listen and give responses to what the person is saying to you so you end up in a conversation with them. You do not have to reveal everything about yourself on this first date after all there could be many more if you make the right impression in the first place.
So if you are single and 50 something do realize that there is definitely someone out there in this big wide world that is waiting to meet you, so do start to get out and about to meet your future life partner.
Embrace opportunities that come your way, as you never know where it will lead you too! Simply get out and about and enjoy life to the max.